We identified two areas that seemed to contribute to high self-esteem (in our limited opinion) - being happy with the way you look and the assurance that you are capable of achieving anything you set your mind on.
When it comes to body image, I'm like any other woman and occasionally do analyze my imperfections, however, I never feel insecure in the way I look (even if I'm look as if I'm carrying a baby in my tummy right now). The techie and I have made a conscious effort to never give importance our looks and weight (except in a health context) in front of V. What we focus on, when we discuss our physical appearance is:
- The importance of grooming, with respect to hygiene and being presentable
- Physical fitness and it's relationship with outdoor play
Despite all this, she's still very much a little girl who loves to play dress-up and use my flavoured lip balms! However, she's not obsessed with the actual results just the blingyness (my own word) of it all.
My mom has thought the little munchkin a song that I love and constantly sing to her and myself:
I AM THE WAY I AM
I am the way I am and I'm very happy with that
I may be tall or I may be short, my body maybe thin or fat
It doesn't really matter at all
Because I am the way I am and I'm very happy with that
Try this song, it really does lift your spirits and is so much fun to sing together.
When it comes to ability, I always think of the movie 'The Pursuit of Happyness'. In the 'Dream Scene' Will Smith gives his son a long list of reasons why he'll never be a good basket-ball player. Then he does a complete turn-about and says "Never let anybody tell you, you can't do something, not even me". I couldn't have put it better. This movie is our all time favourite (the techie and I) and we constantly use the lessons to motivate ourselves and our child.
Anyway those are my random thoughts for today. What are you very particular about when it comes to nurturing your children?